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Ending small talk conversations early 
24th-Sep-2013 03:05 pm
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Mostly for my own reference, as I am trying to become better at conversations

At least 87 percent of casual, small-talk conversations last too long. The problem here is twofold:

• People are afraid to end the conversation and;
• “It’s time to end this talk” hints are ignored.

Do not fear the conversational reaper. All things begin and all things end, including this conversation you are engaged in. And really, chances are that the other person doesn’t want this to go on forever, either.

When you notice the drop-off in the mutual enthusiasm level to below say 50 percent, start to convey your intent for things to end by issuing a somewhat final-sounding statement on the topic at hand, followed by “Anyway …”

For example: “No, totally. Tom is the best! Anyway, it has been just wonderful chatting with you.”

Then, let them acknowledge that they have enjoyed chatting with you, and then say goodbye brightly.

from here
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25th-Sep-2013 09:35 pm (UTC)
Oh, I have had the awkwardest conversations there.

"You know, it is getting late."
"Parties are great!"
"...And, uh, you know, the T is closing soon."
"Nah, I can just take the bus."
"... And everyone else has left."
"Nope, [your SO/best friend/etc] is still here."

My housemate is better at skipping the foreplay with "THE PARTY IS OVER. PLEASE LEAVE."
8th-Oct-2013 05:17 am (UTC)
LJ comments no longer are consistently visible for me, or I'd ask how one knows if a conversation is small-talk.
8th-Oct-2013 08:52 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure if I have a good definition. I suppose it might be something like "the conversation you have with someone you just randomly met on the bus, or someone you're just getting to know, while you're still feeling around for a topic that both of you find genuinely interesting."
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